How do you know that the guy you've just met, IS worthy of a long term relationship, or if all you guys are gonna be having, is just a few dates? Heavens knows, you don't want to write off a good guy because his sitting room is messy, or because he turned up late on your first date. But, being too eager to find Mr. Right, can make you ignore the facts that he is wrong for you.
It's easier to make excuses for his bad behaviour, than to
admit a relationship is not working out. Then, when the relationship falls
apart, you wonder how he could have changed so much. You start wondering why
you ignored those early intuitions, that something was wrong.
When that time comes again, when you meet this new guy, you
wouldn't distrust your intuition. You would pay attention to his behaviour, and
when those actions you have been through before pops up, you would be on time
to act.
Truth is, it is difficult to object, especially when it's a
new relation-ship, and you're dazzled. But, if you really want to avoid the
near future agony, and discover what he's re-ally like, before going all the
way to let him put his initials on you, put him to this test.
CHECK HIM OUT: you can tell a lot about a guy by the way he
lives and the things around him His interests and his dislikes should be known
to you, so that you can know how compatible the both of you are. You should
bear in mind, that if there's a particular attitude that you just can't
tolerate at all, maybe can live without him.
CHECK HIS FRIENDS OUT: there is the saying 'show me your
friends, and I'll tell you who you are.' His friends will tell you a lot about
him. You don't have to like them all. But, if you think they are ali jerks,
then he is also a jerk.
*APPOINTMENTS: is he always late for appointments with you,
or does he even show up? It might mean he considers his time much more
important than yours.
*PAY ATTENTION: a guy who easily warms up a lady's heart, is
he, who discusses family, children
with so much kindness. A good move also, if he shares his
hopes and expresses his feelings when he's upset.
*THE EX: the fact that his last relationship didn't work out
doesn't mean he should bad mouth his ex. This s somebody he once cared about If
he starts comparing you to his ex, like you are not doing something as good as
she used to, or, if he can't stop talking about her, ma be then, he s not
really over her.
*THE OTHER WOMAN: the other woman whom he cares so much
about, or whom should have a huge connection with him, like yourself, is his
mother. The way he treats his mother
should tell a great deal about his attitude towards women in general But, be
careful of a guy who hangs on every word of his mother.
*MONEY FACTOR: the biggest thing behind money is power. If he
wants to pay for everything, including your cheapest purchases, then it isn't
just about generosity here, but, the I-am-more-powerful kind of stuff. On the
other hand, meanness is a great turn off, especially if he wants to control
your money.
"HIS WORK LIFE: this relates a lot. The way a guy
handles his job, tells how he handles life. Be attentive to his sense of
achievement and responsibility
*BITTERNESS: you tell him, he's hurt your feelings and he
says, don't be such a baby.' Guys like these, sometimes get their egos up, by
putting you down. Don't ignore inappropriate anger; like he yells at the TV
set, for no just cause. He shouldn't take his depression out on a TV set or
anything. He should be able and willing to talk it out with you.
Please, before you waste your precious time and stress your
fragile heart ... stop, look and learn. Make sure he's really worthy of your
affection.
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