11 Tips on How to Know Who to Marry
Are you a bachelor or spinster looking forward to settling down in the nearby future?
Are you anxious to know some of the qualities that will prove to you he or she is the right person so that you can stop searching?
Have you been searching endlessly for the lady or man that would make a perfect match of what you want in a spouse?
If yes, I encourage you to continue reading.
In today's article, I want to show you 11 strong points that will prove to you that he/she is the right person to marry.
Of course, may I remind you that you may not likely find all these qualities in one person at its optimum. But if you get 70 - 80%, you are good to go.
Like you already know, marriage is a recognized union of two people as partners in a personal relationship.
Marriage is not what you should rush into and rush out. It's for better, for worse.
One of the reasons we have too many divorces these days is because of poor choice. People now make their decision solely on physical appearance.
While I admit physical appearance should also be a factor to consider, it shouldn't be the ultimate.
Having been in marriage for decades, below are 11 things I think should matter most to you when trying to choose who to marry:
1. Attitude
How does he or she handle matters? Attitude is everything.
2. Maturity
Is he/she someone that acts and behaves maturely? Only mature people take responsibility.
3. Independent
Can he cater for himself? If he can't, then he can't cater for you. It's an insult to marry someone that depends on his father to feed. A dependent person can't take decisions.
4. Understanding
People fight in marriage as a result of misunderstanding. Marry someone that will understand you. Remember, understanding grows.
5. God fearing
If the person you want to marry lack the fear of God, he or she can wound you at any slightest error you commit. But if she has the fear of God, she can't harm you. Love grows in a home that fears God.
6. Trustworthy
Can you trust him? Can you trust her? It's an error to think you will be safe in the hands of a man or woman you don't trust.
7. Caring
When you were in pain, did he care? When you said you were hungry, did she care? He doesn't need to give you money to prove that he cares. Words are powerful enough. But if you have the resources, do not hold back in expressing how much you care.
8. Respect
If she can insult you publicly without any remorse while both of you are dating, she will do worse than that when you get married to her. If he doesn't respect your body during courtship, he will have no respect for you in marriage.
9. Love
Love is an action word. If he loves you he will will prove it. If she loves you, you will know. But remember, infatuation is not love so that you don't mistake ungodly advances as love.
10. Intelligence
An intelligent man or woman can always take decisions in your absence that you will be proud of.
11. Character
Poor character can ruin your home. Don't marry someone with uncultured character except you want to experience divorce, thereby violating sacred instruction.
Like I told you earlier, he or she may not have all these characteristics but 80% of them are enough to start with. There's no 100% wife or husband material anywhere in the world.
Let me know if you have any issue in your relationship.
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