PART 2: TIPS
TO GOOD PARENTING
(1)
Love & Mutual Respect: A child/children is to grow up in an atmosphere of marital
bliss or francas without involving the child/children and without their
presence. This will ensure their safety & security that the parents must
live and exemplify the love they share,
the respect they have for one another in the home today – no matter how busy
their work make them. This will set a standard for the children and would
prepare them to be loving and affectionate also when they get married.
(2)
Quality Time: Good
parents make conscious effort to set aside quality time to be with their
children. What is important is that it should be a consistent life style. Let
the children enjoy and constantly look forward to your company. Do not do all
the taking; these children always have something to say: in listening to them,
you can notice and teach them simple courtesies like, please; thank you; pardon
me. This is also the time when you notice what your teenage children are
involved in and you get involved too – to know what their interest is all about.
Take interests in their assignments, your child’s academic result, their
clothing, and everything.
Keep a calendar, scheduled family time, plan outing
within your capacity spend time away from home together, you can even take a
stroll with 1 or 2 of the children another time with another two. Just find a
pointing connection – to be your child’s PAL – present. Be available & loving.
(3)
Teach Them: Do not leave them to
figure things out on their own, be there for them. Teach them moral and ethical
values and above all feed them with the Word of God now that they are young; so
that when they have developed into adolescent, you won’t find it difficult to
control them/ them finding it difficult to get by.
If you don’t teach them, some else certainly will or
already is. And you will not like what the outcome will be. Teach them sanity by
letting them know what is going on out there and what is happening within them
and warn them about the dangers of it. They must not be naive about strangers.
Teach and lustily positive value in them, lustily value that reflect positive
character, honesty, hard work,
educating, prudence, contentment, honour, humility, love and kindness.
Parent lying when a
child is fully confuses, please open up, tell them the truth because if you
fail to, you will regret it, have mercy and let the child be encouraged and
reward their efforts not when they do well to cover up their weakness.
Communicate the value
of education – let books and materials that will help the children under your
care and mentorship. Educate them about sex education. Start on time because things
are changing. Before a child of 3, 4 and 5 was innocence; but nowadays they are
not, so start teaching them on time. Don’t you ever think that they don’t know,
they know it because they feel it.
(4)
Keep Promises:
Make no promises if you can’t keep one. Trust and respect are not enforced, you
earn trust, and your ability to keep promises helped builds your child’s trust and
thereby grows to become a trust worthy child. Father do not be hasty to commit
self, simply say, I will ‘think about it.
Ensure you strike a
balance so that you are not in directing using promises to unshaped a child who
has learnt what it means to be responsible, to be what is right whether or not
you make a promise. Keep special date like that birthday within your ability.
(5)
Plan for the future:
This is about having a goal to make adequate investment in your ward from the
womb till they either get married to leave home for study or after. Good
parenting is an arduous journey that begins at birth and continues for many
years till your ward gets married, leave home for further study or job
transfer.
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The question is, what
adequate investment have you made?
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How much have you
prepared for that separation season?
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Kill your child
recall your mentorship and find it worth abiding?
Kill there be regrets
or compliment. The issue is if at the end of the day you and I become empowered
and our children are not. What have you
gained? When you think of eternity, try to ask yourself how much you have
invested into these children.
Parenting is for life, is when you are a parent, you never stop being one
because your child will grow and have children who will have children and the cycle continue
Having combined the tips of parenting though in
exhaustive, there will be countless times when our children will make careless
decisions and even choose to devalue our parenting skills, then we must engage
further training strategies
(6)
Share Parenting Responsibilities: There are something we must go through as parents,
putting the children to be early at school while it’s more continent to one spa
to drop the child on his way to work in the morning. The other should find it
convenient to pick them up.
Note that some mothers
let their kids all hungry, some will leave what they suppose to do for their
children/husbands to the housemaid and said: You help me here…………Kate. What?
Parents who don’t
have time, always leaving home early every morning in the name caring for their
jobs should note that if always leaving your child or children into the care of
that stranger, housemaid etc. the outcome of your child or children will surely
speak and come to reality sooner or later. So endeavour to be there for your
children and impact them positively.
FOR THE CHILD
Clear warning:
Note that children are born empty hence as they grow they tend to foolery.
Teach them what to do. Manners, honesty domestic chores, (mind age
appropriateness), correct them when they make mistakes or error. Enforcing discipline comes only after words
have not done the job. For your child’s sake and yours. Discipline should not
be first. Let it come after clear warning.
Establish responsibility: the child should learn to own up to his responsibility.
Prepare an adult out of him. For instance: don’t say, WHY DID YOU DO THAT? This question gives room for the child to make
up stories for his explanations. Rather ask, “WHAT DID YOU DO WRONG? (you will get a response like this);
“Response: everybody went there, so I went there or everyone ate, so
I ate.
What did you do wrong?
Child’s response: I only went
there, I did not
“For the last time, what did we
talk about?
Child: I
disobeyed you.
As
a good and patient parent, focus on the behavior of the child not on his
identity. Let him understand he is capable of doing what is right
God bless you.
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